tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-640161672337075402.post7590181009639095582..comments2023-07-11T01:30:07.061-07:00Comments on Traveling in Dusty Lands: a visit from angry ChrisUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-640161672337075402.post-77053742436592672572011-09-01T17:21:38.159-07:002011-09-01T17:21:38.159-07:00Shannon: Yeah, I've never heard of anybody bei...Shannon: Yeah, I've never heard of anybody being perfectly calm all the time: even the Buddha got kind of snippy sometimes, in his way. (One imagines that if the snippiness survived centuries of editing and idealization, the historical event was probably even more so.) And there's a famous Suzuki Roshi story from Tassajara where he got angry and ran around the zendo hitting everyone with his stick. My teacher went to a conference at SFZC where someone said, "Oh, but I don't think he was really angry." And someone who was there said, "Um, it really, really felt like out-of-control anger."<br /><br />He also stopped and apologized afterward and explained what was going on with him.<br /><br />I guess we're doing it right. ;-)Chris Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11377834549568033187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-640161672337075402.post-35140116354464775602011-08-30T21:48:05.203-07:002011-08-30T21:48:05.203-07:00Indeed, Shannon, and I think that when we do follo...Indeed, Shannon, and I think that when we do follow up with love and compassion we open doors of possibility for the people around us. I do this with J, "oops. I was really cranky just now--did you notice? I was all worried about xxxx and forgot to focus on the moment. Let me breathe and try again." It's a powerful thing to show that one can slip up, notice it, and immediately address it openly.Anna F.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11928505255649789105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-640161672337075402.post-69872945813031259962011-08-28T19:01:24.484-07:002011-08-28T19:01:24.484-07:00Thank you for this Chris. It's easy to think t...Thank you for this Chris. It's easy to think that we're supposed to be all calm all the time but really difficult (and kind of unrealistic) to do. Thank you for sharing all the details of this moment with J, it helps me to see what's going on with me when I react instead of respond and also shows me that when I do react, I still have a choice to follow up with love and compassion.Elihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13784040617856691244noreply@blogger.com